I believe that everyone has two sides. One is your professional side. The other is you, outside of work or whatever. Sometimes the need to be accepted takes away from who you really are. Some try so hard to be considered “cool” that they forget who they are and usually end up not liking who they become. In their quest for acceptence they lose their individuality. If you have to go so far outside your comfort zone to be “cool”, is it really worth it? Not in my opinion. If a certain group doesn’t accept you for who you are, that’s okay. There is a group that will. This can be a hard thing for some to accept. They believe that who they associate with defines them. That couldn’t be further from the truth. You define you. If you rely on others to give you happiness and make your life worth something, then there is something wrong. If you aren’t happy with who you are and you don’t like yourself, how are you gonna make someone else happy? Whether it be a potential romantic relationship or just a friendship, this all comes into play. You can only fake things for so long before you get caught in a lie, or get tired of being someone that you are not. Then, all the “friends” you had, are no longer around and you are worse off then before. If you just be yourself and be confident and proud of who you are, and not what you think others want you to be, then that’s when you build true relationships. Those who know the real you will be around for life. Always there to help you out no matter what.
I’m not trying to change the world here, just throwing some thoughts out there. I’m not trying to offend anyone at all. To each their own. I try not to pre-judge anyone and try to be honest with everyone about anything. I’m not worried about the past mistakes I’ve made and will answer any questions truthfully. You cannot please everyone. No matter what you do, there will always be someone that doesn’t like what you did or who you are. That’s just life and the way things go. All you can do, is be yourself and good things will come.