Brain needs sorting out

Quote from sex and the city:

Carrie: People say ‘Everything happens for a reason.’ These people are usually women. And these women are usually sorting through a break-up. It seems that men can get out of a relationship without even a ‘Goodbye,’ but, apparently, women have to either get married or learn something…

Thoughts in my brain….

Now, “everything happens for a reason” happens to be a quote I have always lived by. In a relationship/post relationship/hating men/all the flipping time – but seriously it is mostly women who use it.

Is it my ever perpetual optimistic tendencies popping out?

I try to be a realist but I really do believe that things do happen for a reason. Otherwise why would they happen? One thing leads to another right? So why does this one thing happening for a reason mean we have to be overly optimistic just to believe that’s why that certain thing is happening? Is it just a hope for something better? A way to cope? most girls I know going through a breakup just want the bastard to get what he deserves – its usually the friend who is trying to cheer her up by saying there is something out there better waiting for her – it is the girl going through the breakup who thinks that is bullshit.

It is different in every case of course this is just a little bit of my cynicism shunning the “ever so girlie love-cheerleader” hoping for more in the back of my mind.

We say guys get away without so much as a goodbye and sometimes that is true but sometimes it isn’t. If the relationship was worth something the guy is feeling it, he just has alternative methods of coping. We sit around and think while they are busy forgetting, us being overly emotional – we get offended.

but yes I do feel in relationships women do have to get married or learn something – but that should not be something negative – I learn something from every individual that crosses my path – whether a positive or a negative learning from other people is what shapes you into the person you become – you learn how to work with others – how not to get hurt – what pushes your buttons – what type of person not to go for – that just because someone can give you butterflies that doesn’t mean they are a good match for you. its okay to have feelings for someone who does not have the same ones back….

you can love someone with all you have and it doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have